“In these positions, you have the ability to gaze in each other’s eyes, kiss, press your flesh against each other and enjoy the warmth, and feel the syncing of breath and heartbeat,” says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT, sex therapist, and author of So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex. Instead, you want a position that lends itself to romance and intimacy. Odds are, you’re not going to have the most romantic sex while pounding away in doggy style or contorting your bodies for a 69 session, even though both can be a lot of fun. The right sex position can help you achieve that. You want to orgasm at the same time, feeling more connected to them than you ever have before.
You want to start slow and progressively build until sweat is dripping everywhere and your bodies meld into one. You want to look into your partner’s eyes and stare into their soul. Then there are the times you want to have a romantic and intimate sexual experience-something that shows them just how much you care about them. Other times, you want to dabble in some BSDM and get kinky with your partner, incorporating sex toys, elements of bondage, role-play, and submission. Sometimes, you only have few minutes for a quickie.
